Just a short post today to point you to a great article called “5 tips for surviving the worst roommate ever” by Kristina Grappo, a TCK who recently graduated from college. It has some great advice for teens starting college and learning to adjust to living with a stranger.
Here’s her 5 tips, short-form:
- Always be honest.
- Always be willing to compromise.
- Don’t be afraid to get an RA involved.
- Don’t stoop to their level, no matter how tempting it might be.
- You’re in college now, so unfortunately, that means you’re an adult, and you have to act like one.
There is some great advice in here, definitely worth checking out – you may find it gives you ideas on how to counsel your teens who are just starting college. Here are a few especially good bits:
Confrontation is uncomfortable, and always a bit scary, but it’s like cleaning: if you do it a little at a time, it’s so much easier. If you wait till it’s a huge mess, then it becomes a big task that you never get around to, and then it just stresses you out.
Being an adult means dealing with your problems head on, and doing it with as little conflict as possible. One of the best things anyone can learn is confrontation is NOT conflict – it actually helps to avoid it!
Always take the high road, try to be as patient as possible (even when it might be really hard), but most of all, don’t let that weird roommate disrupt your college experience, distract you from academics and other important university activities, and ultimately destroy what is going to be a truly awesome experience. Take matters into your own hands, be proactive, and do what you need to do to make sure these four years are going to be the best of your life.
The bottom line is that these should be some of the best years of your life, but only if you make them so!!